Updated: May 13, 2018
When I hear the phrase “no take backs” I think of 2 things: food and the internet.
First, I flash right back to seventh grade lunchroom, Lisa Bender asking me if she can have a bite of my turkey sandwich. I know, right? Gross. But, every time Lisa Bender asked me for a bite, I’d look straight into her sparkling mouth, and hand it over. “Here, you can have it. No take backs.”
As if the thought of someone’s mouth touching my food wasn’t bad enough, the braces took it over the top. See with braces, the food doesn’t just go in and down. No, it likes to hide in between the dental brackets and all, until at least the end of recess, and who knows where it travels in the meantime. Yeah, Lisa Bender, you can have the rest. No take backs.
Which brings me to the internet.
“When you enter the Internet world, new problems and challenges arise. These can often lead to mistakes you may regret for the rest of your life. These mistakes can come in the form of embarrassing personal information made public, or they can lead you right back into real-world, old-fashioned danger.” (Taking Flight For Girls Going Places, page 74)
Sometimes in life, you give something away and you don’t get it back. Now, sometimes that’s our choice, like in the case with Lisa Bender, but other times it’s not. Sometimes, we share something with someone and we lose the option of ever getting it back.
Like with the internet.
Connecting with others on the internet can give you a sense of security which can lower your inhibitions, give you a sense of false bravado, and can lead you to make poor decisions regarding safeguarding your personal information and personal safety. You might feel safe sharing an intimate thought or photo—or even your address.
The information you share and post
(address, phone numbers, school and work schedules, pictures, favorite hangouts) can be viewed by anyone (peers, teachers, colleagues, employers, ex-partners, thieves, predators, sex offenders, pornographers).
TFFGGP, page 74
Once we give the internet something, it will never be returned. There are no take backs. Ever. No matter how much we may want it returned, how much we changed our minds about sharing it – it’s a done deal. It’s no longer ours to even control.
The internet is wonderful in so many ways but can turn into our worst nightmare if we are careless.
While it is great to stay connected with friends and family, we must always remember that “information shared (address, phone numbers, school and work schedules, pictures, favorite hangouts) can be viewed by anyone (peers, teachers, colleagues, employers, ex-partners, thieves, predators, sex offenders, pornographers). Yes, predators may use your information. And don’t forget, grandmas go on the Internet too, so be careful what you post.” (Taking Flight For Girls Going Places, page 75)
Kathy Greene Lahey, LMSW, AC, author of Taking Flight For Girls Going Places, a preventive tool to help independence-bound girls stay safe, confident, and empowered.
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